We might as well start out today with the biggest news in the Harris house this year- RORY LOST HER FIRST TOOTH!
She’s had a wiggly tooth for over a month and this week she went to the dentist and they loosened it up even more. So today as I was doing Rory’s hair for school she was wiggling it with her tongue and I knew it was time. I said, “Sister, you gotta get that thing out this morning.” Selfishly, I wanted her to do it before school because I didn’t want it to fall out at school and me miss the excitement! And I’m so glad I did because her reaction was so fun.
As a side note: Many of you know that weird and strange things make me gag and cringe. Bananas are my kryptonite and I about fall out when I see one. Once Andy had a pack of Juicy Fruit on the nightstand and I almost vomited. I seriously all out gagged until I couldn’t see it anymore. GoGurt gives me the full body gags too.
Another thing? Wiggly teeth. It is so weird because teeth in general do nothing to me. I can watch someone bleed out without a single cringe. But every time Rory started bending and twisting that tooth I could not handle myself. So Rory started calling it “THE CRINGE” and would tell everyone, “I have a wiggly tooth but I can’t show you because it gives my mom The Cringe.” She knows me well.
BACK ON TRACK. I got the whole thing on video! It is a super short video but seriously the cutest ever. And I promise there is no blood and gore. (Also, I was telling her to hurry because it was time for them to leave for school, ha!)
When she grinned at me for the first time with that new toothless grin I teared up. I just couldn’t help it. She is just so big. I was thinking about how I couldn’t wait to post this new “first” and how it seems like yesterday I was posting her first monthly update at One month old. Time is flying. I find myself teetering between absolutely loving this stage and sad they are growing up. I saw this little picture meme thing on facebook today and thought, “YES.”
Life has been fun for Rory lately. She started softball and got to go to the skating rink for the first time in one day!
Watching kids skate for the first time is like watching a baby giraffe try to stand up for the first time. It was hysterical.
And y’all know I’m living out my glory days through Rory in her first ever softball season. She is such a natural athlete, it is so fun to watch.
As for Ryder, she has decided (or her daddy has!) to play golf and do karate. She will be starting karate soon and her and her daddy have been going to the golf course down the street to practice. You can tell she is super proud of her new golf clubs. That Andy spent $80 on. I can’t even.
I asked Ryder at Rory’s softball practice if she wanted to play tball and she said, “Oh no, I’m much better sitting and cheering.” Then she turned to me and said, “You know I’ve been thinkin’ all night about this. I’m glad I have a lot of moneys saved up because now I can bring them to Rory’s games and buy a lot of hot dogs!” BLESS. Girl knows what she wants.
You’ll be delighted to know that the sleep trend has continued to go well. It has been a month since we put their beds in the same room and only two nights has a kid woken up. DO YOU EVEN UNDERSTAND THIS?! People. I feel like a new woman.
Rory has been sleeping with her sleeping mask every night. Maybe this is the key to sleep? All these years and all I needed was to put a mask on her?!
And we all know that Ryder loves food and sleep more than anyone in the world. She actually told me yesterday, “Mama, I love Jesus, food, and sleep. I love Jesus the most but I can’t decide between food and sleep!” She is the most southern 4 year old on planet earth. I don’t know about you, but I sure wish I slept as awesome as Ryder does.
I can’t believe we are getting sleep, loosing teeth, and starting “real” sports. Life is good, y’all.
As soon as the girls left for school this morning I started working on their new room to get it finished up today! It has been two and a half weeks since the shared room process started and I was more than ready to finally get it together!
This is what it looked like when they left (and what it looked like two nights ago when we put the beds together!)- the rest of the room was a disaster of CRAP EVERYWHERE:
Can you tell they were excited about their new beds?!
And here is their finished shared big girl bedroom!
I got their reaction on video too! After I turned it off Rory hugged me and told me she just loved it so much! There is absolutely NOTHING better than making my home pretty for my girls. I can’t wait for all the fun they will have in their new room!
I feel like I am currently nursing a party/candy hangover right now and I can’t quite get out of it.
Probably because there is still a million pieces of candy floating around our house.
Basically we had Rory’s actual birthday, Valentine’s Day Party, Valentine’s Day and then two days off of school to be in a huge cloud of sugar and fun.
I want you to know that one of the greatest moments of motherhood happened to me the night before Valentine’s Day. My children did their Valentine’s ALL ON THEIR OWN. They wrote their friends’ names and sign their own. I just sat there and watched and cried in delight.
Last Friday, as you know, was Rory’s birthday. I had been telling her all week that it wasn’t going to snow on her birthday this year because there was 0% chance in the forecast and it was going to be too warm. It has snowed every year since her birth but this was the year it was going to skip over us. Well, don’t you know it stinkin’ snowed that morning! We woke up and went outside to load in the car for school and we were all giggling and jumping up and down because it is officially 6 years of snow for Rory’s birthday! Here is an excited picture of Rory, but you can’t see the snow.
and it was also Valentine’s Party Day. It was a whirlwind of fun for the girls and for me! I went to Rory’s school first where they went to different rooms and did different things like have a tea party, played bingo, and made crafts. The tea party was my favorite part- they learned about manners and the boys pushed the chairs up for the girls. Rory said to me, “Mama, my husband better do this on my wedding day!” and I laughed so hard. YOU BETTER BELIEVE IT, SISTER.
After Rory’s party I rushed over to Ryder’s school party. I think Miss Janice, Ryder’s amazing teacher, has the funniest bunch of kids this year. They are all so hilarious and have big personalities. I cannot possibly say enough about Miss Janice. She is, hands down, the best preschool teacher on the entire planet. I KID YOU NOT. She is fun and she loves those kids like they are her own. I never ever worry for a second that Ryder isn’t having the best day ever with her because she is just so good to all the kids. We adore her and this preschool. This is the last year the preschool will have a school and I don’t know anyone who has put their kids in school here that isn’t TORN UP over it. I cannot tell you how this school has changed our lives for the better. Ryder cannot wait to go every single day.
The kids ate some party food and then they sang songs and danced. It was the cutest thing, ever. Ryder got the giggles so bad I was afraid she was going to wet her pants.
I may or may not have cried during prayer time. Is this not the cutest thing you have ever seen?!
One of the things I love most about my time being a stay-at-home mom right now is getting to go to all the parties and volunteer at their schools. I just love these stinkers of mine so much.
Friday night was date night at our church and I didn’t think we would go because it was Rory’s birthday but both girls insisted they wanted to go so we didn’t argue. Andy and I went to Lowe’s and to a movie which is my idea of the perfect date. (Saw Deadpool. Please do not take your children/teenagers to see this. It is BAD. Look up reviews. We felt guilty for staying!) Andy and I haven’t been on a real date in a few months so it was so nice to get some time alone. Even after 13 Valentine’s Days together, I still love holding his hand at the movies. 😉
For the past few days we have been having a lot of girl time fun. I’m going to be honest right now and tell you I kind of was dreading the days off from school because sometimes they can be long and draining. But, much to my surprise, we have had the absolute best time. I mean, I was sad having to wake them up early for school this morning! (Don’t get me wrong, I am enjoying some alone time this morning!)
First, you should know that I decided to change things up a bit with the girls’ room. They have been begging me to share a room for a while, so we decided to go ahead and see how it would go. I sold their beds to get some new, girly white beds that matched because they never did well with bunk beds. (Mainly because I was always nervous they would somehow hang themselves off of them or fall.) So, in the meantime, we put their mattresses on the floor next to each other until their beds came in.
These children have slept harder than ever in their entire lives. Because there was no school, they would go to sleep about 9 and then they have both slept the entire night. Rory has slept 9-7:30/45 and Ryder 9-8:30 or later.
THIS IS ME DOING ALL THE SHOCKED FACES OF LIFE.
I told Andy I wasn’t sure I would be buying any beds. Because clearly this floor mattress thing is working out AMAZINGLY. Rory said she has woken up each night, but saw Ryder was next to her and just rolled over and went back to sleep. HOW PRECIOUS IS THAT?!
So yeah. Floor mattresses for life.
Rory got tons of fun things for her birthday that she likes to call “projects” so we have also worked on that! Yesterday she got to spend her $50 gift card at Walmart too, which was the highlight of her life I’m pretty sure. Swiping the gift card on the card machine about did her in.
We made lipglosses first which was so fun.
Then we made brownies. Not for the faint of heart because they were gross, but I ate one anyway to please my children because I am mother of the year, of course.
Also, please see the sign Rory made. “Welcome to Rory’s shop. You are delighted to Rory’s shop!” HAHA! Her making that sign about made my life, y’all.
You will also be delighted to know that the heat guy is here currently and after a month and a half of no eat in the winter- WE SHOULD HAVE HEAT TODAY. It has been crazy. Andy has had THE WORDS with the warranty people. You know if Andy blows up, things are bad.
I’m also clearly wife of the year because talking to me on the skype is so enjoyable it puts you right to sleep five minutes in.
PS: Rory wanted to get my fuzzy dice for my van with her birthday money. I plan to surprise her with that soon. To be continued…
PPS: Ryder went the entire day with no pants on the other day and told me, “Mama, wouldn’t it be awesome if we could do life without pants?” That pretty much sums up Ryder right there.
Just writing the introduction came with painful, but happy, prickling tears to my eyes. I cannot believe another year has gone by and that you are now 6. I don’t know why 6 seems so much bigger but it just does. You now have to use two hands to show your age instead of just one chubby toddler hand. It is just so overwhelming to your mom to know that you are already 1/3rd of the way done being in my home if you leave for college at 18. The thought is just too much to bear!
I honestly don’t even know where to begin this year with your letter because I just have so many things to say, but all seem so inadequate to describe how my love has grown even more for you this year, just like every year and every day that I have had with you.
One of my very favorite things about you is how confident you are. You have such a sense of style and confidence that is far beyond your years. This is what I pray the most never leaves you. I want you to always strut like you are on a runway no matter where you are like you do now. I am always fascinated by your confidence, because it something I have never had as much of and I am eternally grateful that is one of the things you didn’t get from me. Having a confidence like yours is such a beautiful thing and I will continue to pray that you never lose that.
You are still so insanely obsessed with fashion and dresses and tutus and I absolutely love that it hasn’t left you yet. In fact, our biggest and fiercest means of punishment for you at this age is to make you wear jeans to school. It is sheer torture for you. Your dad and I have laughed and laughed over this because it is just so typical “Rory” to have a punishment as easy as just making you wear jeans to get you to straighten up and try harder. All these years we have tried so many things and all we had to do is whip out some denim. WHO KNEW?!
You used to have a very shabby/homeless chic to your dress but the older you get the more it all just comes together into a perfectly mismatched ensemble. You still tell me that you want to be a “fashion engineer” when you grow up and I think that title suites you perfectly. Your daddy and I watch you all the time and say we can see you living in NYC one day having your clothing line on all the runways and in all the stores.
The thing you got from your dad the very most, as I’ve said a thousand times before, is your amazingly sharp mind. I watch you in wonder all the time at how your brain works and how I can physically see you thinking each and every step out. You can tell me how anything works within minutes of studying it and you absolutely love to take things apart and put them back together. The other day you actually said to me, “Mom, my new favorite word is equalization.” I mean, how do you even know what that word is? The scariest part is you went on to explain what it meant. Clearly it was already over my head. Your mama writes the words and makes things pretty- you were born to change the world with your ability to figure things out so quickly. It is truly astounding to someone with a totally different brain.
You are obviously still hilarious and make us laugh every single day, but you aren’t the typical type of funny girl. Your sense of humor can sometimes be dry and unexpected. You come up with little quips that make us howl with laughter but you’ll just walk off like no big deal. Seeing this side of you develop has been so fun to me. You aren’t the class clown, like your little sister so clearly is, but you are still genuinely hysterical all the time. I think that also has a lot to do with your confidence- you are quietly confident in your ability to make others laugh. Another thing you got from your daddy.
There is nothing you do better than being a sister to Ryder. You are so encouraging to her when she needs it the most and your confidence makes her more confident. I can tell you that seeing you love on her and protect her and make her feel like she is the best thing in the world is probably the best thing a mom could ever witness. Sure, y’all fight and bicker too, but 99% of the time it just like having a life long slumber party with your best friend. Let me tell you something Rory, your sister loves you more than you could ever imagine. Ryder loves you so fiercely sometimes it is hard for her to be without you. I can’t wait to see you back at the same school together next year because I know that will help Ryder be so much more confident knowing you are just down the hall.
Lately I have noticed a very sensitive side come out of you. You are profoundly affected by words and I have had to do a lot of holding back and showing grace towards you this year because of it. This is a lesson I am so thankful you have taught me. When you hear a word of encouragement your face physically lights up and you become a kid who cannot be stopped. I pray that I never quench that, but when I do that I am quick to apologize for using a sharp tongue. I want you to know that it is okay to be sensitive, goodness knows your mama is, but to make sure that you don’t let the wrong people steal your joy. It is such a hard line to have to teeter on and I’ve fallen off so many times. I will always do my very best to be the person you know you can run to when you need encouragement. And I sure know that you are my person because you are such a wonderful encourager to me.
This year you have learned so much in Kindergarten and you are thriving, baby. It is absolutely incredible to see you reading with confidence and writing. Watching you learn these things has been one of my favorite things I have ever done as a parent. Seeing your nose in a book, reading to yourself at night in bed has been amazing.
Speaking of bed…. you aren’t hating sleep these days. That is all I will say. Probably already said too much and jinxed it.
You are so astonishingly beautiful to me, Rory. From your perfect brown eyes that have taken in the entire world since the first moment you took a breath, to your sweet button nose and your perfect lips…. I just cannot ever get over how beautiful you are. How absolutely perfect you are. You got the very best features from me and your father and it made the most gorgeous little girl in all the world. Watching your eyes light up with wonder or laughter is sometimes too much for me to even see without crying from joy. I think my favorite thing about you, though, is your right eyebrow. There is so much expression in that one brow and it gives me the giggles every day because you sure do know how to work it.
The best part about this year is seeing your knowledge for Christ grow. Your dad and I have had long, deep talks with you about salvation and heaven and even hell. We can see your brain working and trying to take it all in. I love that you think about it in such a calculated way and take it very seriously. You ask HARD questions and sometimes I have a hard time answering things because I don’t want it to be too much too soon and scare you in either direction. God is moving in your heart right before our eyes and it is by far the most beautiful thing I have ever witnessed.
You are a lover of things that are beautiful, you are sensitive and are moved to tears by things like cards or sunsets or kind words. You are a thinker and a problem solver.
You are absolutely just the best 6 year old in the entire world.
There is no one on this earth that loves you more than your Momma, Rory. I promise to always fight for you, always pray for you and with you about anything, always try to have the right answers or guide you toward them, and to always let you know when I am wrong and ask for forgiveness. I cannot promise to be the perfect mother, but I will promise to encourage you and to love you for the rest of time.
Rory and I brainstormed what kind of party she wanted to have for a few weeks and we finally decided that a Fashion Show Party would be the best party EVER for her. She told me it was the best and I certainly hope it was and that she and her friends had a fantastic time!
Unfortunately I forgot to designate someone to take pictures and so all of my pictures are subpar phone pictures. BUT they will have to do!
Originally I had planned to have all these games and yada yada then I decided to scratch that and just let them eat, have makeovers, walk the runway/dance, and play. It certainly seemed like they had a wonderful time even without every second planned out! I couldn’t believe how relaxed I was, but I think it was just so beautiful to see my girl with her friends having a blast. The cherry on my own personal sundae was that Andy and I had great friends there too that loved on her so much.
Most of the decorations I made myself and they were minimalist but cute!
I made my own invitations this year and did it VERY last minute so I think they looked pretty good considering! (hearts weren’t there, not putting all my info out for the internets!)
I found this chalkboard in the dollar aisle at Target and I have used it so much! It was perfect to welcome our friends to the party!I also made this tassle garland from tissue paper – found directions here! It was so easy and I think I’ll keep it up through Valentine’s and maybe longer!
This “Happy Birthday” banner I found at Michael’s without any writing on it! It was $2.50 and I just lettered it with some micron hand lettering pens I already had!Laid out on the table were all the accessories- crowns (similar, mine were cheaper but not online), lipglosses (similar), boas, rings, and necklaces! I linked all of them so you can find them- they were all super cheap and the perfect thing for the “goody bag” to send home!
Cupcake Station! I got our cupcakes from Walmart and they were so cute! Little dresses! The paper balls came from Target.
Two days before the party I was cleaning up Ryder’s Barbies with her and getting them dressed when I thought- HOW CUTE would these dresses be hanging up like a garland?! So I got some pink string and hung some dresses to *try* to hide all the unsightly electronics in our family room. We hung some “foil curtains” I got from Amazon and by the time the party started 90% had been torn off. These weren’t well made (SUPER THIN- this pictures shows two layered on top of each other…) and I should have just made this myself out of something. Oh well, I’ll remember from next time! It was cute for a minute though! Of course we had to have a runway! This was Rory’s favorite part and it is now in her room perfectly laid in front of her mirror and I can assure you EVERY SINGLE DAY is a fashion show up in there. All the Princess dresses waiting to be worn…
Because it was a night party we ate first because most kids cannot hang without food past 6 o’clock, am I right?! We had $5 pizzas and chips and a fruit tray. Simple. Exactly how I wanted it. Ha!
After dinner the girls had a little makeover! I got so tickled because almost all of them wanted the brightest blue in the ginormous eyeshadow pallet. I got the ELF pallet from TJ Maxx for $3! (And this is the only picture I have of the makeovers….)
So my original plan was to play songs over our surround sound and let them walk the runway several times. WELL. They walked the runway so fast I didn’t even get a picture and then they just had a big ol’ “Shake It Off” dance party! Also, my phone wouldn’t connect with the system and all of that was a disaster. They still had a blast dancing! Andy set his phone up to record them on the tv so they got to watch themselves dance and walk the runway. It was a total hit! #nerddadsforthewin
Then it was time for cupcakes!
HOW CAN SHE BE BLOWING OUT A #6 CANDLE?!
The most precious, stinkerish princesses in all the land 😉
Rory opened her present and she was so cute. She took such great time and effort into looking at all the cards and every detail of the gift. She told me later that she was sorry she didn’t seem more excited at times but she was holding back tears because she was so happy that people came and would buy her gifts.
AND THEN I CRIED LIKE A BABY BECAUSE OH MY GOODNESS SHE IS PRECIOUS.
In case you were wondering, Rory is wearing a “wedding dress” that her aunt Ashley wore in a wedding as a flower girl when she was little. Rory literally wears this dress every second of every day that she can. Not even kidding, that dress being given to her is the highlight of her life so far. hehe! Thank you Gigi and Ashley!
Oh, Rory, I cannot believe you will be six years old tomorrow! I’m so thankful for you and your fun self! I hope this Fashion Party was a night you will always remember!
I have gone back and forth and debated with myself about whether or not I should share this or not since the moment I learned we were miscarrying. After sharing on facebook, I received so many messages from friends saying they were so glad I shared and that they, too, had been through this before. The saddest part about miscarriages is that they seem so shameful and you never hear about them. So, I decided after hearing from so many that I would go ahead and share my story so others could relate and have somewhere they could come to and say, “this happened to me too.” I guess my wish is that someone out there feels a little less lonely after reading my story.
Obviously, this is deeply personal and although I have shared so many things with you that most would not because I truly have a heart that craves transparency in life, this is a stretch for me. I could write this and skim the surface but if I want someone to feel less lonely that won’t help. So I am going to try and be as transparent and open my heart which is truly terrifying to me because the grief is so tangible still. This won’t be an eloquently written essay, it will be a timeline of sorts and just my story and what happened to me. So bear with me, please.
Over Christmas break I was incredibly nauseous and sore in places that early pregnancy brings on. I honestly did not think I was pregnant but the symptoms continued for a week. Finally, on December 29th I took a pregnancy test. I literally peed on the stick and turned it over to put the cap on and it already had a BRIGHT positive line. I’ve had two other babies and neither pregnancies did that. There was a waiting time. This time, immediate.
Because I am a crazy person and one test was not enough- I mean, WHAT IF IT WAS DEFECTIVE?!- I drove myself and the girls to the nearest Dollar General and bought another test. I would have bought 20 tests but I had to ask the 15 year old boy behind the counter for the test and it was painfully awkward. Basically, I was a big ol’ redneck with my kids and my Dollar General pregnancy test. I had shoes on though so I didn’t totally go white trash.
I took the test as soon as I got home. Immediately positive.
I was hysterical in the best way you can imagine. I was crying and laughing and giggling and panicking and laughing some more. I cannot possibly describe to you the smile on my face. It was a true Christmas miracle. The girls both had been praying for a baby for Christmas. I’ve never once discussed us having another baby with them, but they have asked every day for so long when they can have a baby in the house. When talking about what we wanted for Christmas Ryder said, “I know what Mommy wants! She wants God to give her a baby!” Seriously y’all, never discussed it with them.
I put the two tests in a little Christmas tin and wrapped them up with tissue paper to surprise Andy.
When he got home I told him I had forgotten about a present and let him open it up. He was shocked and giddy. I know y’all don’t believe me but seriously, Andrew was giddy. I got it on video and will treasure it forever.
Andy and I talked and said, “can you believe we are having another baby?!” two million times over the next week. We discussed names and how we would tell Rory and Ryder the news. We downright giggled at the thought of getting to tell the girls.
On Sunday night, Jan 3rd, I went to the bathroom and was spotting. I did freak out because the reality of “oh yeah, people sometimes miscarry” hit me like a brick. But, I bled with both girls so I didn’t panic completely. On Monday morning I went to the doctor. My hCG counts were great. The ultrasound didn’t show much because it was too early but everything looked completely normal for how far along I was. On top of all of that, I stopped bleeding.
I went back Wednesday for more blood work. From Monday to Wednesday the hCG levels would double or more to indicate a normal pregnancy.
Friday morning, January 8th, I got the call. “I’m so sorry but your numbers didn’t go up enough. You are having a miscarriage.”
I sat in the chair completely paralyzed for a good 30 minutes. I sobbed deep sobs you can only do when you are completely alone. The hardest thing I had to do was call Andy and tell him. I knew he would be heartbroken too and I didn’t want to be the bearer of such sad news.
In just one phone call life went from planning to ending. It was such an abrupt halt to happiness.
I drove to the doctor’s office that afternoon and I honestly don’t even know how I made it. It is all such a blur. The only thing I remember was turning on the radio for some noise and this song came on. You’ll never convince me that it wasn’t on at that time for me. I so desperately needed to hear the words- “Whatever may come, His strength is enough… my heart is at peace for greater is He…”
At the doctor they confirmed the miscarriage diagnosis. I cried some more and they were so sweet and comforting. They told me I would start to really bleed and cramp over the weekend. Andy called his parents and met them with the girls so I could spend the weekend in bed because we knew there would be a lot of pain, emotionally and physically, that I didn’t want them to see.
Over the course of the weekend I cramped and bled exactly zero amount. Absolutely nothing happened. I did, however, cry a lot and sleep a lot. It was so nice for me to get to do that without having to worry about the girls.
On Monday I went back in to see my regular doctor since he wasn’t in on Friday. He once again checked and confirmed the miscarriage. I once again sobbed. We discussed my options and both decided a D&C was the best option for me. I scheduled it for that Friday to give time for it to be able to happen naturally that week as a possibility. Cried all the way home.
During this time I’m having to get blood work done and every time my hCG was still high but not doubling. It did such a number on my mental state because I kept wanting them to be wrong since the pregnancy hormone was so high. Maybe they missed something. I am so incredibly pro-life so it messed with my mind pretty badly. The entire week was a blur of doctor appointments and going about life as normal. Absolutely nothing happened “naturally” as we had hoped.
Friday morning we got up early and drove to the hospital in Chattanooga. Andy and I didn’t really talk. We were tired and sad. I didn’t cry the entire way there, which is a surprise. I felt like I had a better grip on things. I was so ready to move on and get this over with.
Once back in the surgery prep area/room things started to sink in.
I shed a few tears but thanks to a dose of Valium in my IV, I was okay. My doctor came and talked me through surgery stuff and then he grabbed my hand and prayed for me. I cried like a baby.
I was rolled to the operating room and once on the table something clicked with me. This was it.
This precious life that I celebrated so much was over and was about to be gone forever.
For some reason it took a little longer than normal for the anesthesiologist to get in and put me under (like two extra minutes at most). The mixture of medicines combined with me laying on that table alone while people rushed around me made something snap. Reality set in and hit me hard. I started to sob and I couldn’t wipe my tears so I could hear them falling on the table. A nurse saw me and rushed over. She held my hand and wiped my tears for me. I apologized a thousand times and another nurse came on the other side. They both wiped and wiped as I continued to sob. I started hearing scripture in one ear from a nurse, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted…” and on and on it went. In the other ear I heard sweet prayers of comfort. I continued to sob pretty hysterically (if I’m being honest) until the anesthesiologist rushed in and quickly put me under. It was absolutely humiliating and lonely, but through that terrible feeling God showed up through those nurses and their faith. I remember thinking, “God, make me brave enough to do this for a friend or stranger. To be unashamed to whisper scripture and prayers in their ears.” I cannot possibly tell you how much that meant to me to hear that when I truly needed it the most.
I woke up from the surgery still crying. Apparently the tears never stopped. I’m blaming the medicine. When I woke up another sweet nurse rushed over. She said, “oh honey, I’ve been watching you cry in your sleep, are you ok?”…. I said, “I just need you to tell me I didn’t fart today in the surgery.” She howled with laughter and said that was absolutely NOT what she expected me to say. I fell back asleep with a smile on my face. When I woke up again the doctor was there. My pregnancy was confirmed to be ectopic. That meant the struggle wasn’t over yet. I cried a tiny bit more and dramatically said, “THIS WILL NEVER END.”
I was given a giant shot to help shrink the pregnancy out of the tubes. If it doesn’t work they will have to do another surgery to remove it. BUT I am praying strongly and with belief that I won’t have a need for another procedure. I’m still having to go in three times this week to check numbers. So this truly hasn’t ended yet. But it will soon and the hardest part is over.
This is what I can say about a miscarriage.
It is a club you do not want to join. I took great comfort in so many contacting me with their stories and encouragement. But I did not want to be in this club.
It is by far the loneliest experience of my life. I cannot tell you how alone I have felt through all of this. It isn’t anyone’s fault or anything that happened to make me feel alone, it just is so gut-wrenchingly lonely. Every single thing that happened made me feel that much more alone.
God was so clearly with me each step of the way. I have been prayed for and prayed over. I have had friends from far and wide coming to me with their stories and encouragement.
Miscarriage is a very dark place, but God’s light has shown through so much. I don’t know what I would do without the hope I have in my faith. This has been hard enough with my faith.
God truly is close to the brokenhearted, He has proven that to be true so many times in my life.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18
I just seriously cannot believe it is already Christmas and 2015 is coming to an end. This year has flown by faster than any other year.
What a year we have had! Last Christmas we still lived in our apartment in Cleveland and didn’t hardly know a single soul. Actually, we seriously didn’t know anyone! God blessed us with a beautiful home that we moved into in May and has blessed me with such great friends in just one short year. I remember feeling especially lonely last Christmas and almost wished we had gone home for the actual day of Christmas for that year.
Most of our things were in storage last Christmas and so we just had a simple Christmas and it was absolutely wonderful.
This year we made up for it though! We did outside lights and decor galore inside the house and we have all loved every second of it.
(this pic below made me laugh out loud because it is so bad but I’m just going to post it anyway and let you laugh too)
I feel like 2015 has been a highly emotional year for me, ranging from such extreme happiness to extreme sadness. It has been a wonderful year and I feel like I have grown so much in all the ups and downs. The thing I know for absolute sure is that God stood next to me like a support beam through all the good and bad times. He is always faithful.
I don’t even know where to begin looking back on this year but when thinking of all that has happened I’m most astonished at how much my kids have grown and matured. This year we officially moved past the toddler phase and are into KID territory. It is so strange, y’all. Ryder still teeters between the two stages but there is no doubt about it- Rory is a KID. I can’t believe how fast time has gone and that she will be 6 soon.
Rory is still absolutely loving Kindergarten. (Andy and I were talking yesterday and cannot believe she is half way done with her first year in school!) She has been out of school for a week and is already itching to go back. She still sometimes struggles with her strong will and our suspicion that she suffers from ADD but she is really starting to get into her groove. The very best thing that is happening is her learning to read and write. I cannot even tell you the pride and joy it brings me to watch this area flourish for her. I am pretty sure watching your children learn is the most amazing thing to witness as a parent. Every day that goes by I notice more and more how gorgeous she is becoming. That brown hair and those brown eyes are just stunning. Sometimes I just stare at her and think, “how on earth can she be made from me?” I’m just so proud to be Rory’s mom.
Ryder is adoring PreK, although she isn’t quite as self motivated as Rory….. is anyone shocked here?! She automatically assumes she “can’t” when it comes to any sort of school work but once she has a little encouragement she always CAN. Ryder is absolutely the class clown both at home and school. Her facial expressions cannot be matched and I’m pretty sure this is my favorite quality about her. She is absolutely hysterical and cute as a stinking button. The problem is that she knows that she is that cute and uses it to her advantage as much as possible. She is such an aggravater and drives ALL of us absolutely crazy but she is also so incredibly tender hearted. My other favorite thing about Ryder is that she is SO content. You could give her a stick and she would think it was the greatest thing anyone had ever given her. She is just precious and I’m so proud to be her mom.
Andy is loving his job here and has really flourished this year. When I think about how different he is here than he was in Savannah it makes me want to sob. He was so over worked and over stressed there and I was always worried about him. Though he still works so much and so hard, the company he works for is so good to him and has been such an extreme blessing to our family.
I have struggled this year to find my identity and my place. I think going from working to being at home again was more of a shock than I realized it would be. When the kids were little being at home was an obvious choice but now that they are in school and bigger it seems silly and I feel like I have too much time to think! ha! Even though I have struggled I want to make for sure to let you know that I have also been happier this year than I could have ever imagined. From seeing my kids flourish and go to Kindergarten and PreK, to seeing Andy so incredibly satisfied at his job, to just absolutely loving Cleveland- it has been a wonderful year.
Now that we have been in Cleveland over a full year I cannot even stress to you how much we all LOVE living here. I feel certain that every move, good and not as good, led its way to here. God clearly had his hand in each move and step to lead us to living here. I get teary eyed just thinking about it. When Andy graduated from MS State he had an interview in a town over from us for TVA. He was offered the job and the job with International Paper in Louisiana. One of the hardest decisions we have ever made was that one because we so desperately wanted to live in East TN but he also wanted to work for the paper mill industry. So we took the job in LA and had a lot of people (including ourselves at times) questioning our decision since it was so far from home. But from there we moved to TX where we had the best two years of our lives, to Savannah, to Cleveland. God knew we needed to take the longer path to get to East TN because he knew when we needed to be here. I get so overwhelmed thinking about all the friends that have become family we have made along the way. And once again God has given us that in Cleveland too. My prayer for 2015 was for God to send me just one friend. Once again, he blew me out of the water with that. I’m just so thankful.
It has been a beautiful year and I’m so looking forward to our most magical Christmas yet. The girls are just giddy about Santa coming. More than that, they have been so interested and in awe over the Christmas story this year. I see their hearts opening to truth and to Jesus more and more each year. It is the most wonderful thing to watch happen.
I hope you all have a very Merry Christmas this year, no matter how simple or done up it is. I am so thankful to have all of you in my life!
As I have told you before in many different ways….
COUGHING IS THE ONE THING THAT CAN DRIVE THIS SISTER OFF A LEDGE.
All four of us have had the worst cough and it doesn’t seem to be subsiding. I’m to the point where I’m about to slap myself because I am so dang annoying. And don’t even get me started on the whole pee your pants every.single.time. you cough fiasco that comes with motherhood.
Sorry. That was TMI. But someone has to tell the truth.
So basically since we have been back from our trips to the Caribbean and Mississippi (both equally wonderful places ;), we have been high on cough medicines and low on the actual coughs. Doesn’t that sound like SO MUCH FUN?! Honestly this has just shown me how blessed and thankful I am to live in a house of people that so rarely gets sick. This is the first fever the girls have had in a year and I haven’t had so much as a sneeze for several years. God just knows I can’t handle a cough for more than once in a few years, ha!
We did come back from the land of the living this weekend just in time for our first round of Christmas festivities!
First we put on our tackiest outfits and headed to our SS Christmas Party- it was an absolute blast. We played Dirty Santa and Battle of the Exes. I laughed until I cried several times. It was just the best.
My gift included these lovely signs. I will be creating an etsy account so you can purchase this amazingness soon.
It should be noted that the girls slept in their beds the entire night for the first time that week on Friday night. I woke up at 6 worried that someone had kidnapped them.
Saturday morning we headed to a local holiday market to go see Santa, Elsa, and the Grinch. It is weird to be in a phase of life where your children don’t scream bloody murder when sitting on Santa’s lap! I miss that stage, to be honest.
Andy met us and we went to Chattanooga for lunch and a little shopping. We ended up at Bargain Hunt and I stood in front of this giant thing of depends for a good 5 minutes debating whether my life had come to an end this point where I was seriously considering this purchase.
Christmas 2016 I’m asking for a bladder lift.
We, of course, watched the SEC Championship and I, of course, was pulling for Florida because I love an underdog. Obviously the teams I’m routing for seem to never win- I’m looking at you State, Bears, and now Florida. All I can say is THANK YOU LORD that football season is now over because I don’t think my heart can handle another SEC loss. I’ve washed my hands of football. For now.
Side note- I clearly mean that ANDY watched the game and I just sat and ate chips and chatted with my friends. And also snuck out while the kids were playing and the dads were pretending to watch them so that I could head on over to Bath and Body Works to take advantage of the once a year $8.50 candles. Twisted Peppermint is my love language. I’m seriously regretting not buying a ton of candles in whatever they had left so that I could return them and get more holiday candles. Oh well. Andy and my bank account are glad I didn’t.
I will have you know that both girls crashed like they literally never have before.
Hold on to your britches when I tell you that Rory slept NINE O’CLOCK PM TO NINE O’CLOCK AM without moving. Y’all know that chick has never slept that long IN HER ENTIRE LIFE. It was amazing.
Don’t worry, she has woken up every night since.
Sunday we went to church and then we headed ourselves back home because WE HAD SOME SERIOUS LOUNGING TO DO. I took a 3 hour nap. Oh yes I did. The girls took a nap. We watched movies and had hot chocolate and spent the entire afternoon and night in our pjs. It was the best.
You should know that Ryder made me take the above picture of her and also send it to Ethan. Her main man at school. I was scrolling facebook and she saw a picture his mom had posted of him by a Christmas tree and she squealed and said, “OH HE IS SO HANDSOME AND CHARMING!!!!!!!!!!!!!” Then proceeded to insist I send him a picture of her. This girl. I don’t even know what to say. Teenage years may be scary.
I will not lie to you. Monday morning I took the girls to school and then I came back home and got in bed for a few hours. Oh yes I did. IT WAS PURE BLISS. Then I mad cleaned my house because I didn’t want Andy to think I had gotten back in the bed like the lazy sloth that I am.
Are y’all with me, ladies?
This morning Ryder and I were talking while I put her little water spout in her hair and she said, “Mama, I know why God made me!” I giggled and said, “why is that?” She replied with, “Well, you know, He just knew there wasn’t enough cute things down here on earth. So He made me so that there would be more cutie-ness!”
She is rotten. And yet it is so true. God TOTALLY sent her just for that 😉
I have felt so bad about letting things go here on the blog. I mean, it is seriously neglected.
Right now life is so crazy busy and full that I’m having a hard time posting and also, I feel like most of it will bore you to tears. But, if you are willing to be a victim to that, then here we go….
Today I will catch you up on life with just telling you things I am into/digging/interested in/laughing at lately. In a list form. Because I am feeling terribly unclever and therefore I will use a cliche list.
Music. In particular, Adele. I adore her. If I were to choose anyone to sound like in the entire world it would be Adele. “Hello” is a breath of fresh air in the “secular music world” as my Christian self should say. What I’m trying to say here is that it is devil music but I love it. KIDDDDDDINGGGGGGGGGGG. I will say though, we have switched over to only Christian radio and that has helped me so much with my natural potty mouth and lifts my mood like no other. But I can’t resist Adele. I JUST CAN’T. She is also so stinking gorgeous and I want her skin and her nose and HER VOICE. The only negative I have to say about the song is that the video is a leeeeeettle too long on the front. Only because I’m so ready to hear her sing I don’t care about the dramatics. So fast forward to the 1:12 mark and SING YOUR HEARTS OUT SISTERS. *brb gotta belt it out for a minute….. “helloooooooooooooooooooo from the other siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiide”*
2. Jane.com – OH YES. I realize I am 23094 years late to trend because I resisted the temptation. BUT THEN. I found these shirts and gave in to the urge and OH MY LAWD I CAN’T EVEN HANDLE MYSELF ON THIS WEBSITE.
3. Memes. I am ALWAYS into memes. Here are my favorite as of late. The first two can relate back to point #1.
4. Rory. Man, this girl has hit an age where she is helpful without being asked 99% of the time and she is independent and coming into her own. It is just the best. Last week I took her to her 5 year well child visit (almost a year late) and she is growing like a weed. I mean, she is petite for her age, but has grown so much still. The doctor asked her what she ate normally and she said, “Vegetables because I’m a vegemetarian. I don’t eat meat. Unless it is deer- I love me some deer meat.” The doctor laughed and I said, “oh yes, we are just hillbillies eatin’ deer meat.” He asked her how school was going and she said, “well it is fine but I would like to do more math and social studies.” Bless her heart. Also, enter that under things her mama would never say. She still makes me crazy a lot of days because she is so strong willed and so….. mischievous, but she’s such a joy at this age. If only I could get her to stop putting things in her mouth (like pencils and such…) and to stop cutting her hair and pants and the Lord only knows what else.
5. Obviously this one is going to be Ryder. Listen. This child is keeping me on my toes these days. She’s SNEAKY, y’all. And hilarious and cute and ohmygoodnessIcouldjustsqueezeherallofthetime. It is so very hard to get her in trouble because she knows just how to put on the cuteness to a level you cannot handle. She is SUPER into comfy clothes right now and will do just about anything to make sure she gets to wear some sort of sweat shirt and leggings every day. Then I put some fleece pants that were Rory’s in her drawer and when she wore them the first time she literally said, “These pants are so soft I’m never taking them off. They are BLOWING MY MIND.” Also remember that I said she was sneaky and then look at the bottom picture. I told her to put her “cell phone” up before school……… She decided to hide it in her pants.
6. Podcasts. Y’ALLLLLLLLLLL. How have I never been into podcasts before now? Last weekend I made a trip to South Carolina for my friend’s baby shower. I ended up listening to podcasts all the way there and all the way back. I absolutely adore Big Mama and Boo Mama’s podcasts because they are my soul sisters in life. I’ve always loved their blogs and you better believe the podcast is just as hilarious. Then. THENNNNNN. I listened to Serial all the way home from SC and I AM SO ADDICTED AND I NEED TO KNOW WHO DID IT OR WHO DIDN’T AND OH MY WORDDDDDD I CAN’T THINK OF ANYTHING ELSE.
7. Baby showers. Well, I have only been to one but I had a blast and had to figure out a way to add that into this post. I’m so glad I got to make the way too quick trip to see Erin and her family and celebrate her and baby Silas. I cannot wait to meet him soon. We have been friends since HS and it is crazy to think that was 12 years ago and she is having her 3rd baby.
9. Man buns. I don’t know what it is about this that makes me say, ‘YES’, but I’m really really into man buns. I have been asking, nay, BEGGING Andy to get a man bun. Let me tell you how he feels about it. He feels strongly that he’ll never have one. I have even bribed him to see if he would grow his hair out. Nope. Nothing is working. But can’t you imagine Andrew in a man bun? I think I’m going to start a “Andrew Needs a Man Bun” GoFundMe or Kickstarter….. what do you think?!
I’m totally getting Andy this as a stocking stuffer this year……
Well, I think that is it for now. I am currently knee deep in packing for our trip.
Oh. Let me tell you one more thing.
Last night a commercial for Disney World came on. The girls sat in wonder and when it was over they started BEGGING us to take them there. We told them we were going on a cruise and couldn’t take them right now because of that and both of them SOBBED saying they just couldn’t wait to go. I mean, it was like a total meltdown! They have never done anything like that before over a commercial especially.
Andy and I were reallllyyyyyyy mean and just kept playing into the “maybe one day but not until you are older like 8 or 9” thing and just drove the point home that we wouldn’t be going to Disney soon.
BUT OH MY WORD you should have seen the looks we were shooting each other over SHEER DELIGHT that we are surprising them on Saturday with a day at Magic Kingdom.
I literally could cry right now just thinking about it. I promise to film the surprise for all to see. I cannot freaking wait, y’all.
And I’m pretty sure there is nothing better than going to Disney from opening to close and then getting on a boat the next day to cruise the Caribbean. It couldn’t have worked out more perfectly and we are just beside ourselves with excitement.
We have had the most eventful Halloween week in the history of all our Halloweens. Last week was such a whirlwind that I still feel hungover from all the sugar and events.
On Thursday Rory had her first ever field trip! Now. Let me just say, they could seriously load those kiddos up and drive the bus around for about 30 minutes and they would have been so dang happy. Rory was BESIDE HERSELF with excitement because of getting to ride the bus.
We headed to the pumpkin patch and Rory had an absolute blast! I love getting to see her interact with her school friends and teachers. She is such a mess.
I’ll tell you what– I never pictured myself being the mom that loved to go on field trips and volunteer at the girls’ schools, but it turns out I really, really love it.
Last week was especially fun because I got TWO girls’ nights and I mean… come on. It doesn’t get better than that!
I can’t even tell you how thankful I am to have girlfriends in Cleveland now. It is so nice to get out of the house and nothing is better than two nights in a row!
On Saturday we slept in for the first time in I don’t know how long and we were able to get the house clean and ready for our Halloween Party! Our church normally does a big festival but this year they decided not to do it this year so we invited our Sunday School class over for a party. Our neighborhood is a huge trick or treating place so we took our kids out and then came back to eat. The kids had THE best time. In fact, Ryder won’t stop talking about how it was the best day she has ever had. Most everyone, even the adults, dressed up and it was just so much fun. I can’t wait until next year!
The girls really wanted me to go as Ursula at first but I had to draw the line and say no. We had a lot of suggestions but finally they settled on their current favorite movie- 101 Dalmatians. So Andy was Roger, I was Cruella and the girls were puppies. It was a lot of fun getting dressed up with them.
Here is the best group shot I got!
Sunday afternoon I took the girls’ picture in front of a school here in town that is always gorgeous in the fall. Then yesterday the same picture from a year ago showed up on my facebook “on this day” and BASICALLY I HAD A SOB FEST, OKAY?!
I mean listen…. it was just yesterday that all my pictures looked like this-
And now suddenly my kids are almost 6 and 4 1/2. HOW DID THAT EVEN HAPPEN?!
Side note: That moment a kid toots and you ask who did it… should’ve known….
So basically I have had the hugest baby fever in all of the land for the past few days. And then God comes down just when I think I can have another one and whispers to Rory at 3am, “Wake up, my child, and remind your parents why they never had a third baby.”
Baby fever has left until the next time facebook breaks my heart with a picture of tiny babies. And then it’ll be over again when Rory wakes up yet again in the middle of the night and I realize OH HECK NO.